Struggling to change what you’re given

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00_marionedelmanSeventeen-year-old Theresa Tran is one of this year’s winners of the Children’s Defense Fund-Ohio’s Beat the Odds® scholarships after overcoming tough odds including physical disability, the death of a beloved sibling, and a father who suddenly abandoned the family and left her mother to raise four children alone. Theresa says she had to be a survivor right from the start:

“The odds were against me from the moment I was born. The chances of my survival were very slim since I was born three months premature and weighed only 1 lb and 10 oz.

The doctors just looked at my mom and said, ‘She won’t make it until tomorrow.’ My dad refused to come see me and instead argued with my mom, saying that there wasn’t a point to my living because I was already messed up. My mom didn’t give up on me, though, and I began to fight for my life, unaware that this was the first of many times where I’d be a fighter.”

Soon after birth Theresa was diagnosed with spastic diplegia, a form of cerebral palsy. Her closest brother Daniel, only eight months older because Theresa had been born so prematurely, and their older brother David helped protect Theresa from other children’s teasing and stares.

Left behind
Five days before her fourth birthday, Theresa underwent corrective surgery to allow her to walk more easily – a date that should have been a happy milestone. But as family and friends were picking up balloons and flowers later that day to celebrate they were in a car accident, and 5-year-old Daniel was killed.

Theresa says, “After Daniel passed away, I wasn’t the same because he was my best friend, confidant, and protector. During elementary school, I was mourning, but that didn’t stop kids from viciously teasing me and humiliating me constantly because of my limp and an unusual gait. I didn’t want to go to school because I was defenseless, so going to school was a daily nightmare. Yet, because of the constant torment, I became emotionally strong. I figured if I were strong, if my tormentors couldn’t see me cry, then I’d be okay.”

By middle school Theresa had finally started to believe the worst of the hard times were behind her when her world fell apart again.

Her father left one day without mentioning where he was headed and never returned.

After filing a missing person report, her frantic mother eventually learned he had paid a coworker to drive him to the airport and boarded a flight to his native Vietnam, leaving his family behind with no warning and no way to contact him.

School a refuge
As her mother continued working several jobs to keep the family afloat Theresa quickly took on much of the responsibility for caring for herself and her two younger siblings and she began to look at school in a new way – as a refuge.

“School is the place I can get away from all the stress and troubles going on around me. I have no control over many things in my life, but my academics are up to me.”

Theresa is now a high school senior and president of her class with a grade point average above 4.0. She hopes to major in biochemistry premed and become an orthopedic surgeon – “I’ve always felt the compelling obligation to help others and that I must give back to all the doctors who’ve helped me.” She also says, “I hope [my story] can help others going through adversity and show those people that they’re not alone . . . Despite these challenges, I’ve gotten back up and faced each day with an optimistic attitude. My past does not define me or my future, but all of these hardships have molded me into the person I am today.”

Marian Wright Edelman is president of the Children’s Defense Fund whose Leave No Child Behind® mission is to ensure every child a Healthy Start, a Head Start, a Fair Start, a Safe Start and a Moral Start in life and successful passage to adulthood with the help of caring families and communities.

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