Can America love?

02-sgreySadly, sinfully, and shamefully, we cannot escape the hatred and violence so many people have in their hearts.

From the tragic and senseless killings happening in the streets in the United States to what happened at Orlando’s Pulse nightclub, it seems as though hatred and violence is a dominant factor.

Preached, not practiced
What’s even more troubling is that the propensity to love is loudly preached all over the world in the wake of a mass shooting – and whispered when violence happens every day in communities of color.

Because love is an action word, too many people have relegated love to simple beliefs. When one’s belief (being in agreement with something) dominates one’s ability to show love through his or her actions, we will continue to see people labeled, categorized, and stereotyped based on their lifestyle.

The LGBTQ community is grieving. All over the world, many of them still continue to experience discrimination from people who don’t agree with their lifestyle. In addition, individuals who subscribe to the Islamic faith are labelled as terrorist by the same ones who profess to love people in spite of their race, creed, color, and sexual orientation.

As long as love is boxed in by those with limited thinking and a shallow ideology, we will not progress; we will decline.

No improvement
What’s happening in the political race between presumptive presidential candidates Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton shows no signs of improvement. It seems as though the American public is faced with one politician who continually makes speeches that are degrading, demeaning, and demonic, and another politician who panders to Black people and has a history of lying to save face.

There is no love because love is based on beliefs that are party-centric and not people oriented.

How do we get over the hate and promote love and peace?

Accept people for who they are as human beings. Acceptance doesn’t mean there has to be agreement. People can love one another without agreeing all of the time. Whenever people are forced to agree with something that goes against their belief system, hatred can escalate.

Eliminate party politics and concentrate on individuals. If all people are created equal in the image of God, political party loyalty hinders seeing people as humans.

Stopping assuming America is this Christian country. Why? Because Christianity doesn’t hate, judge, or kill. If America was to practice Christian love it professes to have, then it would display Biblical love which says, “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.”

Seek to find commonality rather than concentrating on differences. No one is perfect. Focusing on the good in someone while fixing what’s wrong with us (individually) will help people transition from disorder to order.

When people spend more time showing love through their actions, this world will begin to be peaceful. When people decide that enough is enough and start speaking out for the least, left-out, and disenfranchised, love will be in action. And when we teach our younger generation to love themselves and treat people fairly and justly and not label them because they may ‘appear’ different, love will become a dominating factor.

Dr. Sinclair Grey III is a speaker, business trainer, writer, and success coach. Contact him at or on Twitter @drsinclairgrey.


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